I can’t help but notice all the great advice regarding how to cope with the situation we’re in. While I find that some of the advice is simply good old-fashioned common sense, some of it is a little aggressive. During a pandemic, when none of us knows how the situation is going to turn out, why is it important to pressure people into retooling themselves? Also, most of the advice seems to be for people who have nothing else to do during self-quarantine.

Handwashing and taking precautions, staying away from other people as much as possible, no matter what the disease is good common-sense advice. Although we know it to be true that not everyone has good common sense. But advice like, take courses, work out more, spend more time chatting with the family could be great for those who have little else to do once they have cleaned out their closets and organized their pantries. Each of these things on it’s own can be very good, but without considering the current situation for some people, it can cause pressure for those who are already overstressed.

I think one of the things which affects us more than usual is what happens to us when we are no longer busily moving from task to task. We have way too much time to dwell on our flaws because we are stuck with ourselves. Those people who tell us now is the time to start that exercise you never had time for. But consider this, people usually make time for things that are important to them no matter how busy they might be.

If someone in the habit of making excuses as to why we don’t want to do things or how we can’t do things, they will probably continue to do so. But what if we take a few minutes each day to work on those things, in small increments. If you need to get in the habit of moving more and performing stretching to help your aches and pains. Then set aside a time of day where you spend even 5 or 7 Minutes doing it because if that helps you feel better you might want to add another 5 or 10 minutes on. The lesson here is you don’t have to bombard yourself or demand that you spend a whole hour on something in order to get results. You can start out gently.

The same goes for eating. Some of the time, every one of us is going to need mac and cheese or some other comfort food. But stop, take a moment and decide if eating a mountain of mac and cheese is really making you feel better. If you have children or grandchildren at home during this pandemic, perhaps finding recipes they can cook easily would be fun for everyone. When you look for the recipes, perhaps you can incorporate some calorie savers. Use low-fat cheese, not non-fat, that adds sugar. And find recipes or meal plans which incorporate more fruits or veggies.
Now, for some of us, food and money are big issues. We don’t have enough of either one. If you are self-employed or you work for one of the industries which have been deemed non-essential, life is tough right now. Taking courses and working on your diet may be far less important than helping your children with home school and finding food to eat.

So, here’s my advice, take the pressure off. Try to do a few things that are good for you. Take care of yourself and your people, and if your self-care involves some binge watching on Netflix, so be it. Let’s all just get through this the best we can. Let people know if you need help, and trust me, there are people out there ready to help. Call 211. Call the local food banks, check with charities to see who can help with rent and bills. Then just know you did the best you could and try to let it go.
Valentina Boonstra

Valentina Boonstra

Yoga instruction, massage therapy, pilates, pain relief, massage therapy, brevard county massage therapist, personal trainer, trainer for those in chronic illness



About Brevard Massage

I have been a personal trainer and massage therapist for many years now. My specialty is getting people moving again. I have learned through the years that preventing injuries is as important as relieving pain after an injury. To that end, I have also learned Yoga, Tai Chi, Qi Gong and Pilates.